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If you are experiencing the pain and torture of being alienated it may be useful to seek grief and loss counselling

Gold Coast Support Group

If you are suffering or confused about whats happening to you come along to our saturday morning support group at the "The Dish cafe" at Mudgeeraba Village Shops on the Gold Coast at 10am. Telephone Steve first to confirm your attendance 0433 537 270

 If you need support, want to talk or are just wondering what is happening to you, contact me through the contact page with your email and I will return your message very soon. I am a qualified counsellor, you can then contact me by telephone
0433 537 270
07-55938660

Another Father suicides....please read the 'real stories' tab - NOW

 It is my personal belief that Australian and international Child Support Agency legislation is pushing more and more fathers towards suicide, depression and mental health issues.  Imagine losing your income, your home and your children and often friends... just season this with a big dollop of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)....false allegations... and a system that does not understand PAS and betrays childrens and parents rights.

If you believed in Justice then read on carefully

What is Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)

Please read the articles page to gain a more indepth knowledge of PAS.  Parents need to think before they act. They need to look ahead to the consequences before they share secrets that no child should have to know – before they take the innocence of childhood from children who are totally powerless to fix their adult problems. They need seek the counsel of professionals who can dispassionately help them make the right decision on their children’s behalf. Then they need to work on healing themselves.

1778. Conscience is a judgment of reason whereby the human person recognizes the moral quality of a concrete act that he is going to perform, is in the process of performing, or has already
completed. In all he says and does, man is obliged to follow
faithfully what he knows to be just and right....

1782. Man has the right to act in conscience and in freedom so as personally to make moral decisions. "He must not be forced to act contrary to his conscience. Nor must he be prevented from acting according to his conscience...."

 "any attempt by a parent to alienate a child from the other parent should be seen as a direct and wilful violation of the rights of that child.  The punishment and legal ramifications should without doubt  be as focused as any other instance of child abuse".

 Parental Alienation Happens when:

A parent denigrates the other parent to the child.  This process of devaluing a parent to the child is damaging to that childs self-esteem, and confidence and causes problems that will live on into adulthood.  This process is what is called PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME.   There are many articles on this website explaining in detail what Parental Alienation is and the effects on the child.

A once loving and close relationship with a parent is suddenly and abruptly ended by the children with little warning. The child aligns with the alienating parent and rejects the targeted parent. 

We support the following statement:

If you have ever had someone try to break the bond between you and your child, you will understand the trauma this causes.  The sheer grief and loss is intolerable.  This can lead to depression and even suicide for the alienated parent.  The parent who trie to break the bond between you and you child is abusing your child

If you physically injure a child, or other person, you know you could be thrown in jail. If you sexually abuse a child, you know you could be thrown in jail. But, if you mentally abuse, brainwash, or alienate a child from their parent, it is not a crime. Is this right? Is this just? Is this good for a child? No, laws need to be made, to make parents responsible for ENCOURAGING a good relationship with the other parents, and legally PUNISH the parent who uses a child as a sick and sad tool to try to "get back" at the parent who left them.

Children

Children are the pawn in the systems game.  The system being parents, the family courts, legal people, the child support agency, magistrates and the media.   This system allows 6ft tall adults to hit a 2ft tall child in the name of love.  So why are we surprised that the system allows abuse of children through PAS.  I am of the belief all of the above need to totally re-think how to love and nurture children in a safe and trusting environment.

Abuse of children happens when:

An adult hits a defenceless child.  How often are children hit, how long for, where on the body, is a weapon used, are bruises allowed, do some parents lose control when hitting children - the stats show some do - are parents aware of other ways to discipline a child than using physical force, if a child is hit lightly then why do it at all? There are other safer ways to discipline a child. Yes, this is an emotive subject.  I personally believe children need prtecting from violence not conditioned to it.

Abuse of children happens when

The family courts do not see through the lies and manipulations of the chronic narcissistic parental alienator.  Some people who should know better such as court psychologists, magistrates, feminist groups and the media are often conned by the devious alienating parent.  I will not mention legal people here as most of them are blind to childrens needs and are biased to where the $$$ are coming from.

I offer 2 free hours of counselling per week either face to face, telephon or email. Contact me through the contact page. Leave a message on my guestbook and if possible your story on my blog here.  Please visit my website at www.counsellingqueensland.com

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 This was posted by a 14 year old boy on this website
"good on ya for making this website, I have myself possibly been a part of parental alienation syndrome not the cause, but the victim, anyway great website and I hope there are more people who realise what parental alientation can do to the parents and especially the child, good on ya mate. Posted by". '........' on 17 June 2008